36 Wedding Planning Don’ts To Avoid
Our top tips to save you any potential embarrassment!
Whether you’ve been waiting to plan your wedding since you were a child or you have no idea where to begin, these 36 wedding planning don’ts will be your saving grace. No bride or groom-zillas here, just bride and groom-chillas. And with Bridebook.co.uk’s free and easy-to-use wedding planning tools (from checklist to budgeting), you’ll be planning pro in no time.
Don’t leave everything to the last minute. Winter is the ideal time to get organised with Bridebook as your planning companion.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your wedding. You are going to be surrounded by your best friends for the party of your life with the love of life.
Don’t forget to download the Bridebook App (iOS and Android) if you haven’t already. Christmas sofa time is the perfect time for some sly planning.
Don’t wait to buy your alcohol. Buy it now during the Christmas supermarket sales and save around £2000! Sorry Tesco…
Don’t race through all your planning and make the most of each step instead, like having a boozy family Sunday lunch to pick your wedding wines.
Don’t bankrupt yourself. Most couples overspend, but really don’t need to. There are loads of ways to save – see our top tips – and use your Bridebook’s budget tool to see what you should be spending on each item
Don’t do anything until you have found your venue. This will set the date, style, location and capacity of your wedding. If you haven’t got that sorted yet go ahead and start searching our venue directory (the largest in the UK!) to find your perfect venue.
Don’t lick 100 envelopes. Do yourself a favour and buy a gluestick!
Don’t book your venue until you have your budget breakdown (Our budget tool with do this for you). Renting a jaw-dropping castle is awesome, not being able to afford any food because if its cost isn’t!
Don’t wish the planning stage away too much. Whether it is getting a hotel barman to design you personalised cocktails for the big day, or spending time making your wedding playlist, enjoy those moments and savour the thoughts behind them – your actual wedding day will go by in a flash on the day!
Don’t fall into the usual trap of trying to do everything at once. You have plenty of time so set up your personalised checklist here and we will guide you through everything very calmly and make sure you don’t miss a thing!
Don’t have the bar too far from the dance floor… when Spice Girls comes on all the men will leg it to the nearest pint. And when Mr Brightside comes on, they’ll all sheepishly make their return.
Don’t use spreadsheets! You are getting married, not doing your accounts! Our guestlist tool is much more fun and easy, and purposefully built to save you hours of time and from lots of arguments!
Don’t decide to have your stag do too close to the the big day. We all know broken bones take time to mend and eyebrows need time to regrow.
Don’t rush up and down the aisle . Take it slowly. All your guests want to see the happy couple. Especially Grandma!
Don’t have a receiving line (this is when you and your parents greet every guest – as you come into the meal) at your wedding. If you do want one, do it as you come into the venue but keep it far back from the bar area so guests can move through and start on the champagne quickly.
Try not to make pre-dinner drinks go on for too long. Your guests will start moaning about sore feet which can be a serious mood killer!
Don’t have any seating too near the dancing area. People-watchers and non-dancers will frighten off the self-conscious.
Don’t sit your badly-behaved friends near your younger family members. Uncle Bob won’t approve!
Grooms – don’t forget to pack a spare white shirt … accidents happen. No ones judging.
Don’t split the party up by having a ‘guys’ room’. A whiskey room sounds like a great idea but only in theory. Save it for the stag do instead.
Don’t make the bar too big as guests will use it as the perfect place to congregate.
Don’t forget to ask someone to film the bride’s final dress fitting . This will make the MOB’s and chief bridesmaid’s life much easier when strapping them in on their wedding day!
Don’t forget to have a boogie with your parents. It will be one of their favourite memories of the day.
We advise you don’t put the cheese board any where near the dance floor. Cheesy music is great. Cheesy smells… less so.
Don’t let your wedding day be the first time both families meet. Arrange a pub lunch weeks or months before hand. It may save some heated drunken disagreement on the day!
Don’t have your wedding speeches written on a scrappy piece of paper that’s easy to lose. Have the final version on a neat piece of paper, or on an iPad that you can ask one of your bridal party to look after until you need it slipping under your chair in preparation.
If you decided against having a videographer at your wedding don’t forget to ask a reliable friend to film all the speeches on their phone . You’ll definitely want to look back on them after the wedding!
Don’t rely on a guest to be your only photographer. They won’t fully enjoy the day and may not produce the results you were quite after. Read about how to save money on a wedding photographer here.
Don’t show everything off at once. Reveal the photo booth or the magician later on in the day as this will create more of a buzz. There’s nothing quite like tipsy twenty-eight year olds when they realise there’s a candy floss machine around.
But at the same time, don’t spring any unwanted surprises on your wedding guests. Compulsory dance competition? Maybe not.
Don’t serve seriously garlicky dishes on the day of your wedding – not something you want repeated all night on the dance floor.
Don’t spend a small fortune! If you have your eye on a venue that is out of your budget, decide to have a midweek wedding instead and save yourself 50%.
Don’t forget to make copies off all the paperwork for the big day and keep them safe in a ‘wedmin’ file.
Don’t let guests spend ages queuing up for a drink at the bar whilst you’re off having your photos taken as a newly married couple. Ask the venue or catering company to ensure some drinks are pre-poured ready for guests to grab and go.
Don’t forget to gently sandpaper the bottom of your new shoes. You don’t want them hindering your dance moves or be slipping around the dance floor!
Don’t forget that you will need to feed your suppliers at some point. Pre-ordering a nice takeaway is likely to be the cheapest option, or you can ask your caterer to prepare a large dish of something easily shareable like lasagna or shepherd’s pie.
Hallucinating on your wedding day …hmmmm! Don’t try new sleeping remedies the night before. Test it out a few weeks before instead. Read our top 5 tips to getting enough sleep before the wedding here.
Know your dress’ limits. Your wedding day is not the time to practice your cartwheels if you’re in a close-cut slinky fishtail number.
Don’t be shy about telling your suppliers your budget up front. Get a quote from them. If its too pricey, tell them what your budget is and see if they can work around it.
Don’t wear your heels for the first time on the day. Instead, do a test run in them to the supermarket so you have the trolley to help you!
And one more to finish with… don’t forget to enjoy every moment of it! It will most likely be the best day of your life…