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How To: Invite or Exclude Kids From Your Wedding

Become the absolute master of wedding etiquette! child hiding behind a guest
By Allister Freeman

Inviting children to a wedding can be wonderful. For some couples they add something indescribably sweet to the proceedings, as well as priceless moments that rehearsed entertainment simply can’t offer. However, for others, children equal crying, tantrums and screaming – and totally cramp your style.  Whichever camp you’re in, here is our etiquette guide: flower girl dressed in red singing
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If you are including children:

1) This does not mean that every single child of every guest has to be welcome. You can always choose to have just the children of close relatives and friends, or just the pageboy and flower girl in the ceremony. If you’re worried about upsetting anyone, just give them a call to explain – they will definitely understand. bride and flower girl smiling
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2) Clarify that children are invited in your invitation – address the invite to, Mr and Mrs Windsor and George and Lottie. four flower girls dressed as ballerinas
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3) Make sure you organise the children at your wedding: seat the parents and children on the same tables, or have a separate table  and make sure you order special meals for them – you don’t want the oysters wasted on a little munchkin.

If you are not including children:

1) Try to avoid saying “NO SMELLY SCREAMING RUG RATS” on the invite and make a note that ‘Unfortunately children are not invited’ or something along those lines. If someone still RSVP’s with the names of their children, ring them up and politely explain why you chose not to have children at your wedding. Drama averted! children taking photos with disposable cameras at wedding
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2) If you know you are inviting couples with young children, give them plenty of warning to organise themselves, especially if they need to hire a babysitter.

3) Consider that you may have to include the children of nursing mothers; primarily because the parents may not be able to leave their babies at home and will not be an extra expense for you. They can bring a travel cot and put the baby to sleep in another room – sorted.

Happy Planning!

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