As the time is approaching for the big day, you will be facing a flurry of emotions. Excitement, fear, joy, panic……to name a few. They all seem to combine into a big mush that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and highly stressed. These emotions are natural. Don’t worry if you’re feeling stressed….everybody does! It would be weird if you’re not! But don’t suppress the stress. Instead, do what you can to distract yourself from the negative emotions and relish(every minute) of the positive emotions. Here are our tips for keeping your cool for the final countdown.
1. Book a spa for the final week
Not exactly rocket science but this is a great way to loosen up in the lead up to the big day. Massage, facial…..whatever your preference is. Either go on your own, with your fiancé or bridesmaids…..or anyone else for that matter. And yes, Grooms are allowed to go for a spa treatment too!
2. Go for a country walk
Ease the stresses with a long walk in a pleasant countryside setting. The peace and quiet should help clear your mind from all the hustle and bustle of your wedding preparations.
3. Think about the dancing
You may be feeling stressed about your ceremony. The idea of standing in front of all your family and friends can be very stressful for some people. If you’re giving a speech, this may make you even more nervous. If you fall into this category, try to distract yourself by focusing on the non-stressful part of your wedding. Think about how you will feel once all the stressful parts are done and you can spend the rest of your day enjoying time with your family and friends. The dancing is normally a good part to focus on. Once you’re dancing, all the hard bits are over and the rest of the night can be spent boogying on down. And then comes……
4. ….the honeymoon
That’s right! Another great thing to focus on is the honeymoon(if you are honeymooning straight after your wedding). Your honeymoon is the first time in months that you will be able to fully relax and you don’t have to look at a to-do list once! If you’re feeling nervous about the wedding day, try distracting yourself by getting excited about the honeymoon.
5. Think about the marriage
With all the wedding planning arrangements you are going through, it is very easy to become so focused on organising the wedding that you can forget the most important thing…..the marriage. Remember what it’s all about. All this planning is for one purpose…the celebration of your marriage to the person you love the most. Once the wedding is finished, the marriage remains and this is the thing that lasts. Focus on the importance of the union…..as this is the thing that matters. Next week you will be husband and wife…..and that’s amazing!
6. Go for a meal with your fiancé
Following on from my last point….this is a great way to keep the romance flowing. Not only that, it gives you and your fiancé some time-out from wedding arrangements and gives you some breathing space. Take a couple of hours to catch your breath. Reminisce about how you met and look back at your relationship together. Don’t talk about wedding planning at all! Enjoy the company and just relax.
7. Don’t worry about small problems
It’s very easy to become obsessed with every little detail, but don’t worry too much about this. The truth is….with so many arrangements going on at the same time, it’s very likely that at least 1 thing will be missed or won’t go as planned. Try to accept that now, rather than feeling annoyed/frustrated on your wedding day. When the day comes, you won’t be thinking about the length of the twine that is tying favours together. Often small mistakes in your wedding day become anecdotes for the rest of your life….they actually make the day more special and memorable.
To sum it all up, there is only 1 thing to remember. The perfection is in the day, not the arrangements.