Do you suffer from wedding planning stress? Are you struggling to motivate yourself to get on with it? Here are our top tips to give yourself a kick-up-the-bum with your wedding planning.
1. Kickstart the planning – the 2 minute rule
A productivity technique used by professionals everywhere. To put it simply….if it takes less than 2 mins, do it now! Wedding planning can be overwhelming due to the sheer scale of the task in hand, which can lead to procrastination. The 2 minute rule helps by starting you off with the easiest task first. Once you have started, it should be easier to continue.
To get scientific for a second, Isaac Newton theorised that an object in motion tends to stay in motion unless something stops it. So in theory, once you have started, it should be easier to continue and more difficult to stop. But enough about physicists! This is a wedding blog for goodness sake! Choose your easy tasks(e.g responding to an email from your photographer, writing up a to-do list) and do them first. It will help you get started and you will feel great as you tick tasks of your to-do list.
2. Don’t wait for motivation
Motivation is a tricky business. Too often we hear people(or ourselves) say something like “I just don’t feel motivated”. Do athletes jump out of bed every morning with sheer delight as they lace up their running shoes at 6am? As they step out into the cold while everybody else is in bed? The answer is “no”. Some people may naturally feel more driven than others but nobody feels it all the time. The secret athletes use is that they have a goal, not motivation. They don’t wait for motivation to strike, they just get on with it. They know what they need to do and they do it, regardless of how they feel.
If you are feeling bogged down by your wedding planning and not feeling motivated, don’t worry. Think of your wedding day as the goal. There are tasks that need to be done and you are the one who is going to do them! In fact, you are going to do those tasks so well that if those tasks could look at themselves in the mirror, they would be feel very VERY foolish by how well you have done them. You have bossed those tasks! THOSE TASKS ARE SOOOO…….
……well you get the picture. I may have got a little carried away there. Sorry, motivation suddenly struck.
3. Set 30 mins aside every night
Instead of embarking on 3-hour wedding planning stress marathons once a week with 40 tasks, 10 cups of coffee and a 10-serving Victoria sponge. Set aside 30 mins each night. Just 30 mins. No more. Dedicate that 30 mins to only working on your wedding planning. Put the TV off and get focused. A small chunk of time is far less daunting than tackling a massive planning session once a week. Not only that, if you are doing a small amount every night, rather than once a week, it’s easier to stay on top of what needs to be done as you don’t forget what has happened since last week. Once you are in this routine, it will be easy to keep going with it.