Most people think of a wedding as a lavish party with friends and family, centred around a couple in love. For an introvert, however, being the centre of attention can be scary – even on their special day. If you’re an introvert (or marrying one), we’ve put together a few easy tips to follow to ease your stress as you plan your wedding.
Low-Key is Lovely
Some people want loud music, heartfelt speeches, and lots of guests at their wedding. But if you don’t, that is completely ok! A small, intimate event with the most important people in your life is more than fine.
Remember, this is your day. Plan your wedding around your priorities. If you want a small guestlist, go for it! If you want a casual backyard BBQ, fire up the grill. Your happiness (and your spouse’s) is what matters most.
Know Your Strengths (and Weaknesses)
Introverts often feel overwhelmed in social settings, which can make planning a wedding (one big social event) very stressful. But you have innate strengths that can make planning easier than you might have realised.
For example, many introverts are great at making plans and organising. This skill is a godsend when you’re planning a wedding – armed with our wedding planning tools, you can take over the world. With so many elements to keep tabs on, an organised mind can keep everything running smoothly from day one, which everyone will appreciate.
However, don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to other people if they aren’t your cup of tea. Do you hate negotiating? Send your future spouse or a member of the main wedding party to book vendors for you. Not only will this take some stress off you, but playing to the strengths of your family and friends will help your wedding be even better.
Don’t Let Facebook Freak You Out
From the minute you post that engagement ring pic, your social media feed will be flooded with well-wishes, advice, and questions about the day. Seeing the notifications stack up can be overwhelming, but take a breath and you’ll be fine. Remember, you don’t have to reply to every single message. Thank the people who congratulate you, but don’t worry about all the questions and suggestions. They can wait! Also, ask a family member or member of your party to handle your social media on the big day, so you can live in the moment. There’s a time and place for social media, and your wedding day doesn’t need to be it!
Do a First Look
Some brides feel particularly anxious as they walk down the aisle. It doesn’t matter that they’re in a gorgeous dress, heading towards the love of their life. The fact remains that – gulp – all eyes are on them.
One way to alleviate that stress is to have a “first look” with your spouse before the ceremony begins. This private moment between the couple (and occasionally the photographer) can remind both partners what that day is all about: each other. With that in mind, even the most introverted bride can walk down the aisle a little more care-free.
Make Sure There’s “Me Time”
There is no doubt that planning a wedding is stressful. From the day you say “yes” to the day you say “I do”, you’ll be busy with seating charts, invitations, decorations, and a whole lot more. You’ll also be celebrating a lot; bridal showers, engagement parties, and hen dos are all par for the course for a wife-to-be. Somewhat raucous stags are expected for the husbands-to-be, too.
All of this can leave an introvert exhausted. That’s why it is very important that you schedule time to recharge throughout the wedding planning process. In fact, you should even carve out some “me time” on your wedding day, to help calm your nerves and make the day much more enjoyable.
Not every wedding needs to be a huge event. Even the most quiet introverts can have a beautiful, memorable ceremony that they will remember forever – as long as they plan accordingly. If you stick to your guns and plan the wedding that you know will make you happy, you’ll find that everyone else will be happy with you.
Article by Shannon Lochwood